I had to post this!

I read a little about this story yesterday and found it a bit strange.  Mrs. Sherrod seemed to be saying she learned something that she was wrong about.  None the less some of what she had to say seemed to be bad.  Any way, I thought the Tea Party and the NAACP were just stirring up a little mess.

This morning I was watching CNN, come to find out Mrs. Sherrod was asked to resign her position on the side of the road.  Come to find out, she actually helped the family keep the farm AND the farmers wife credited Mrs. Sherrod for them keeping the farm.

Mrs. Sherrod, after her words were manipulated by the Tea Party, after she was denounced by the NAACP and hung out to dry by the White House, she showed much dignity!

A Woman Is Dignified!

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I often get down with the fact that I'm divorced.    I think wow, I can't believe I am in this situation.  Instead of dwelling,  I need to do realize this is a stepping stone in my life.  I can punish myself for the mistakes I made, but that is not beneficial to me, or the people around me.   I can look at this new stage, as that----a new stage, a new chapter.   I need to take adavantage of it, and make it work for me and my children.  Yes, I'm divorced, but that does not make me who I am.

I have new opportunities in my life.   I am faced with challenges I never knew I would be faced with.  Money is tighter than I ever thougth it would be.  I can wallow, or I can keep pressing forward.   I can to turn the lack of money into a positive.   I am more conscious of turning off lights.  I am learning to shop clearance items only.   I am learning to not shop so much.   I am learning to price shop in all areas.  I shop at the less expensive grocery stores.   I don't buy name brand items.  I don't buy something the minute I think I need it, I wait until I actually do need it.    I go longer to get my hair done.  I paint my own toes and finger nails.   I am being more conservative than before.  I am learning less is more.

I am writing on a website.   This is huge!!! I never thought I would do anything like this before, but I have found I'm good at it.   I enjoy doing it, and so here I am.    It helps me, and I think it helps others.   I try to be a voice for women.

My new chapter involves a new love.   My love is someone who totally gets me.   He knows what I think and feel just by the tone of my voice.   He knows how to love me the WAY I need to be loved, not just for what is comfortable for him, but what is comfortable for me.  He and I talk for hours on end.   We play games.   He usually beats me, but we are together doing something we love to do.

My new chapter also involves three handsome boys.  My Love has three kids of his own.    I truly love them, and they love me.   My girls think his boys are great.    They pick on each other, like kids do, but at the end of the day, when the boys go back home, my girls want them to stay, and ask when we are getting together again.  My girls ask for them in the morning as well.

I am learning sometimes we need help from other people, and it's ok to ask, and receive.    I have needed my mom more than I have ever needed her.   She has helped me in ways I never thought.   I am learning to have a new respect for her.   I am understanding as a mother, no matter how old your child is,  you will help them.     It bothers my mom that her daughter is divorced, but she loves me.   She supports me for my sake, and her grandchildren's sake.

I have learned to not judge others.  We never know how we will handle a situation until we actually are faced with it.   I have thought, said, and done things I never thought I would say or do.    Perspectives change as we face challenges in life.   My lesson is to stop being critical and judgemental of others  because I have not walked in someone else's mocassins.   Judging and being critical helps no one.

My challenges are making me grow.   I look in the mirror, for the first time in my life, I like what I see.

I appeared to have it all, but I wasn't happy.  Today, I am happier than I have ever been,  not because I have it all, but I am learning to appreciate all that I have.  The happiest person in life is not the person who has it all, but the person who takes adavantage of what they get.  This is true contentment.  Committment to Contentment.

I am grumpy today!!!!   I am not sure why.    I woke up and felt fine.  I had a cup of coffee.   I talked to my boyfriend on the phone, checked on my bank accounts, and then the grumpiness rolled in.   Could it be that it is the end of the month and it's time for my wonderful curse from Eve?   Could it be that my bank account is getting low, and I don't have money rolling in?  Could it be that I am doubting my ability in everything?   Am I good mother?  Am I doing all I can to make money?  I know I'm a horrible housekeeper.    Am I good girlfriend?  Am I being respectful and loving to my mother?  Am I a good friend?  Do people really even like me?   What is going to happen in the future?  Are my boyfriend, who I love and adore going to make it?   Will his kids like me?  They already do, but will they keep liking me?   Will my children be scarred for life because they come from a broken home?   Why can't my ex-husband value me as the mother to his kids? Are all these thoughts legitimate or are they here because I am going to start my monthly cycle?

I don't know.  These are thoughts that do pop up in my  mind frequently.   Some of it could be b/c of the cycle, but some of it, is because of the lack of money.  I have always known where my next pay check was coming from.  The first and the sixteenth day of the month, there was always a paycheck.  That is when my ex got paid.   A nice salary I might add.   Funny thing though, I never realized how nice until I am no longer getting it.  I was a school teacher, who just got laid off.  I now have no job.  I am doing my hobby trying to make money.   That is writing.  I am hoping other women will want to read what I have to say.    I am hoping other women can relate and identify with my personal thoughts and feelings.   I am hoping to make a difference, but today I am just grumpy.

I get like this when I don't have money.   I have something money can't buy.  I have love.   I have the unconditional love of a man, I never thought I would find.   I have a love from someone I wasn't supposed to fall for, but did.   I have the love of my children and his children.  My girls adore me, and I adore them.When I am with my kids they greet me with hugs. "Mommy!!!!"  My boyfriend's kids do the same.  " Hi!" and they give me a hug.   My mom and grandma love me in their own way.  It is often said, if a person has love, they don't need money.  Well I do have love.   I am so thankful for that.   I have a few friends who are there, who are just a phone call away.   Money can't buy these things.    This is a lesson I need to constantly remind myself.

I truly do have peace of mind.  I truly do have happiness.   Do I wish I had more money----Uh YES!!!!, but a person can always make more money, or at least attempt it.   Money can be sought, but what about love?   Love can't be bought.   I could be the richest person in the world, and be lonely.    Instead I am poor, but loved and cherished.    I will make money some day. Until that day, I need to look around, and truly count my blessings.   I have eyes that can see the colors of the world. I see the smiles of my children and my boyfriend.   I have ears that can hear the birds sing.  I can hear my children call my name.    I have arms that can give and receive hugs.   I am able to talk with the people I care about.   My nose allows me to  smell the freshness of cut grass, or the baking of chocolate chip cookies.   My mouth lets me  taste the sweetness of peanut butter cup ice cream on a hot day.     I have a roof over my head and a bed to sleep in.  I have clothes on my back and shoes on my feet.   My car runs.  I truly am a lucky person.

Guess what, grumpiness has ceased.   If it comes back, I will reread what I wrote, and realize again how truly blessed I am.

Today is a new day. Living in the past allows us to miss out on what's in front of us. Believe in yourself and all you can do!  You are a WOMAN, therefore; YOU ARE  AMAZING!!!!

Ok Ladies, we as women often loose our sexuality once we become mothers, or even as we get older. We may no longer like how we look. Our waist is bigger than it was when we were 25. Our hips have expanded. We have dimples in areas we don't like to mention. We are sagging in areas that are supposed to stand up on their own. So what we can do about it?

We have to realize we can still be sexy. We can still buy bras and panties that match. They may be a little bigger than they used to be, but as women we need to still feel good about who we are and what we have. I used to think that Victoria Secret was just about buying lingerie to have sex. I realize I was sadly mistaken. This is NOT the case at all. Pretty lingerie is about feeling good about ourselves. We can buy it in our favorite color, and know we look good for no one other than us. It is our own secret. No one has to know we are wearing a beautiful push-up lavender bra with lacy matching panties. We can hold our heads high, and be proud just because we are WOMEN! We are beautiful creatures.